Origineel gepost door wisewolf
Slaan is zeker niet goed, maar mag je wel worstelen?
ja maar wel laten winnen...
7ayak Allah....En slaan is zeker niet verstandig, laten we Rassoel vrede zij met hem volgen volgen en onze vrouwen niet slaan.....En ook nasee7a van onze vrouw accepteren, geduld hebben en hun goed behandelen.
Maximum is `tikken´niet slaan....En dan pas na vermaning, het ontzeggen van het echtelijk bed, dus duidelijk na een verloop van tijd. En ook om iets wat verboden is m.b.t de din en niet omdat je liever paprika chips....wilt dan cheese onion......Een sa7abi radi Allahu 3an deed dit met een siwak.....
[GLOW=skyblue]4: 34. Mannen zijn voogden over de vrouwen omdat Allah de enen boven de anderen heeft doen uitmunten en omdat zij van hun rijkdommen besteden. Deugdzame vrouwen zijn dus zij, die gehoorzaam zijn en heimelijk bewaren, hetgeen Allah onder haar hoede heeft gesteld
(abandon them in their beds,) `Ali bin Abi Talhah reported that Ibn `Abbas said "The abandonment refers to not having intercourse with her, to lie on her bed with his back to her.'' Several others said similarly. As-Suddi, Ad-Dahhak, `Ikrimah, and Ibn `Abbas, in another narration, added, "Not to speak with her or talk to her.'' The Sunan and Musnad compilers recorded that Mu`awiyah bin Haydah Al-Qushayri said, "O Allah's Messenger! What is the right that the wife of one of us has on him'' The Prophet said,
«Ãóäú ÊõØúÚöãóåóÇ ÅöÐóÇ ØóÚöãúÊó¡ æóÊóßúÓõæóåóÇ ÅöÐóÇ ÇßúÊóÓóíúÊó¡ æóáóÇ ÊóÖúÑöÈö ÇáúæóÌúåó¡ æóáóÇ ÊõÞóÈøöÍú¡ æóáóÇ ÊóåúÌõÑú ÅöáøóÇ Ýöí ÇáúÈóíúÊ»
(To feed her when you eat, cloth her when you buy clothes for yourself, refrain from striking her face or cursing her, and to not abandon her, except in the house.) Allah's statement,
(beat them) means, if advice and ignoring her in the bed do not produce the desired results, you are allowed to discipline the wife, without severe beating. Muslim recorded that Jabir said that during the Farewell Hajj, the Prophet said;
«æóÇÊøóÞõæÇ Çááåó Ýöí ÇáäøöÓóÇÁö¡ ÝóÅöäøóåõäøó ÚöäúÏóßõãú ÚóæóÇäò¡ æóáóßõãú Úóáóíúåöäøó Ãóäú áóÇ íõæØöÆúäó ÝõÑõÔóßõãú ÃóÍóÏðÇ ÊóßúÑóåõæäóåõ¡ÝóÅöäú ÝóÚóáúäó Ðóáößó ÝóÇÖúÑöÈõæåõäøó ÖóÑúÈðÇ ÛóíúÑó ãõÈóÑöÍò¡ æóáóåõäøó Úóáóíúßõãú ÑöÒúÞõåõäøó æóßöÓúæóÊõåõäøó ÈöÇáúãóÚúÑõæÝ»
(Fear Allah regarding women, for they are your assistants. You have the right on them that they do not allow any person whom you dislike to step on your mat. However, if they do that, you are allowed to discipline them lightly. They have a right on you that you provide them with their provision and clothes, in a reasonable manner.) Ibn `Abbas and several others said that the Ayah refers to a beating that is not violent. Al-Hasan Al-Basri said that it means, a beating that is not severe.
[GLOW=deeppink]4:19. O, gij die gelooft, het is u niet geoorloofd, vrouwen te erven tegen haar wil, noch moogt gij haar tegenhouden opdat gij een gedeelte van wat gij haar hebt gegeven, moogt terugnemen, tenzij zij schuldig zijn aan een schandelijk kwaad; [SIZE=4]en blijft met haar vriendelijk omgaan en als gij afkeer van haar hebt, kan het zijn, dat gij afkeer hebt van iets, waarin Allah veel goeds kan hebben gelegd. [/GLOW]
Tafsier van Ibn Kathir.....
Women Should not Be Treated with Harshness
[æóáÇó ÊóÚúÖõáõæåõäøó áöÊóÐúåóÈõæÇú ÈöÈóÚúÖö ãóÂ ÁóÇÊóíúÊõãõæåõäøó]
(nor to prevent them from marriage, in order to take part of what you have given them,) Allah commands: Do not treat the woman harshly so that she gives back all or part of the dowry that she was given, or forfeits one of her rights by means of coercion and oppression. Allah's statement,
[ÅöáÇøó Ãóä íóÃúÊöíäó ÈöÝóÇÍöÔóÉò ãøõÈóíøöäóÉò]
(unless they commit open Fahishah.) Ibn Mas`ud, Ibn `Abbas, Sa`id bin Al-Musayyib, Ash-Sha`bi, Al-Hasan Al-Basri, Muhammad bin Sirin, Sa`id bin Jubayr, Mujahid, `Ikrimah, `Ata' Al-Khurasani, Ad-Dahhak, Abu Qilabah, Abu Salih, As-Suddi, Zayd bin Aslam and Sa`id bin Abi Hilal said that this refers to illicit sex. Meaning that if the wife commits adultery, you are allowed to take back the dowry you gave her. You are also allowed to annoy her, until she gives back the dowry in return for a Khula`.'' In Surat Al-Baqarah, Allah said,
[æóáÇó íóÍöáøõ áóßõãú Ãóä ÊóÃúÎõÐõæÇú ãöãøóÂ ÁóÇÊóíúÊõãõæåõäøó ÔóíúÆðÇ ÅöáÇøó Ãóä íóÎóÇÝóÂ ÃóáÇøó íõÞöíãóÇ ÍõÏõæÏó Çááøóåö]
(And it is not lawful for you (men) to take back (from your wives) any of what you have given them, except when both parties fear that they would be unable to keep the limits ordained by Allah) [2:229]. Ibn `Abbas, `Ikrimah and Ad-Dahhak said that Fahishah refers to disobedience and defiance. Ibn Jarir chose the view that it is general, encompasses all these meanings, adultery, disobedience, defiance, rudeness, and so forth. Meaning that he is allowed to annoy his wife when she does any of these acts until she forfeits all or part of her rights and he then separates from her, and this [view] is good, and Allah knows best.
Live With Women Honorably
(And live with them honorably), by saying kind words to them, treating them kindly and making your appearance appealing for them, as much as you can, just as you like the same from them. Allah said in another Ayah,
[æóáóåõäøó ãöËúáõ ÇáøóÐöì Úóáóíúåöäøó ÈöÇáúãóÚúÑõæÝö]
(And they have rights similar over them to what is reasonable) [2:228]. The Messenger of Allah said,
«ÎóíúÑõßõãú ÎóíúÑõßõãú áöÃóåúáöåö¡ æóÃóäóÇ ÎóíúÑõßõãú áöÃóåúáöí»
(The best among you is he who is the best with his family. Verily, I am the best one among you with my family.) It was the practice of the Messenger of Allah to be kind, cheerful, playful with his wives, compassionate, spending on them and laughing with them. The Messenger used to race with `A'ishah, the Mother of the Faithful, as a means of kindness to her. `A'ishah said, "The Messenger of Allah raced with me and I won the race. This occurred before I gained weight, and afterwards I raced with him again, and he won that race. He said,
(This [victory ] is for that [victory].)'' When the Prophet was at the home of one of his wives, sometimes all of his wives would meet there and eat together, and they would then go back to their homes. He and his wife would sleep in the same bed, he would remove his upper garment, sleeping in only his lower garment. The Prophet used to talk to the wife whose night it was, after praying `Isha' and before he went to sleep. Allah said,
[áøóÞóÏú ßóÇäó áóßõãú Ýöì ÑóÓõæáö Çááøóåö ÃõÓúæóÉñ ÍóÓóäóÉñ]
(Indeed in the Messenger of Allah you have a good example to follow) [33:21]. Allah said,
[ÝóÅöä ßóÑöåúÊõãõæåõäøó ÝóÚóÓóì Ãóä ÊóßúÑóåõæÇú ÔóíúÆÇð æóíóÌúÚóáó Çááøóåõ Ýöíåö ÎóíúÑÇð ßóËöíÑÇð]
(If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allah brings through it a great deal of good.) Allah says that your patience, which is demonstrated by keeping wives whom you dislike, carries good rewards for you in this life and the Hereafter. Ibn `Abbas commented on this Ayah, "That the husband may feel compassion towards his wife and Allah gives him a child with her, and this child carries tremendous goodness.'' An authentic Hadith states,
«áóÇ íóÝúÑóßú ãõÄúãöäñ ãõÄúãöäóÉð¡ Åöäú ÓóÎöØó ãöäúåóÇ ÎõáõÞðÇ¡ ÑóÖöíó ãöäúåóÇ ÂÎóÑ»
(No believing man should hate his believing wife. If he dislikes a part of her conduct, he would surely like another.)
Moge Allah ons leiden.