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18-04-2011, 17:53
The temptation of women


The greatest temptation facing men is that of women. A male person may be ascetic, worshipping God & secluded from the rest of the world; yet he cannot give up fancying women.



The Prophet said (in a hadeeth narrated by Oama bin Zaid): “I left behind no temptation more harmful to men than women”. All the circumstances surrounding Joseph pushed him to fall into sin. But, as he grew up, he began to understand life, & he was given knowledge from Allah. He took refuge in God & God endowed him immunity. In 12:33 “«O Allah, my Creator,» Said Yusuf, «l would rather be imprisoned than submit to their evil desire; and unless O Allah, You keep their intrigues away from me, I may succumb to their temptation and be one of these wrongful of actions»”. “Succumb to their temptation”, a grown up man turns boyish in his behavior, & young ones are known, when wanting something, not to be patient. Omar Ibn al-Khattab has advised his servant saying: Do not turn your love into torment & your hatred into destruction. Do not go to extremes when falling in love (turning boyish in such love), & do not go to extremes when hating (working to destroy those whom you hate).



Ali bin Abi Talib said: Love your lover scantly for he may turn to be your hated one someday, & hate the one whom you hate scantly for he may become your lover someday. There is no absolute love or hate, even among the faithful. You must love a person as much as there is awe to God & his prohibitions. Should he part from that path, you are to hate him even if he happens to be your own father, brother or wife. You may carry some love to a person during a stage of his life so long as he obeys God. But once he strays, you begin to hate him. And if he repents & returns to God’s path, you’d love him again. Imam Ahmad ibn Hanbal , Yahya ibn Mo’een & Ali ibn al-Madani loved one another in God. When the plight of the creation of the Quran occurred, only Ahmad stood by the truth. The other two responded in a way that would please the Caliph to protect themselves from whipping, imprisonment or death by the sword. Ahmad severed his relation with them. Ali was a colleague of Ahmad, yet Ahmad honored him by including sixty something narrations of hadeeth by Ali in his famous book. When the plight occurred & Ali answered the way he did, Ahmad ceased quoting Ali & asked Abdulla (his son) not to quote anyone who answered as the Caliph pleased. When the ordeal was over, Yahya visited Imam Ahmad & saluted him. Ahmad did not respond. When Yahya started to apologize for his wrong stand, Ahmad did not accept his excuse. Yahya was angry, but when he was later asked about Ahmad he said: No one is like Ahmad.



The conclusion is that there is no absoluteness in love and hate. So Joseph said “unless O Allah, You keep their intrigues away from me, I may succumb to their temptation”, 12:33. And “Allah responded to his invocation and kept their cunning away from him; He is indeed the Omnipresent with unlimited audition, the Omniscient”, 12:34. So the Lord backs those who seek refuge at him, he protects them from succumbing to such temptation.


If there is no appropriateness for doing a thing, it looks very ugly. But this does not mean that if there is a reason & someone does it, this does not mean that that someone can be excused. Joseph was praised because in every situation he faced the circumstances were pointing to his fall for temptation. He had good reasons to fall. If he did not, it would be a very ugly matter.



Muslim has narrated in his book a hadeeth told by Abu-Hurayra that the Prophet said; “Three types of persons whom God would not look at on the Day of Resurrection, nor would He purify them; they are due for heavy punishment: a king who lies, an old man who is adulterous, and a modest breadwinner who is arrogant”. There are three penalties for each of these offenses. Each one of the penalties is harsh in itself. The reason for inflicting all the three penalties on one & the same person is that what he did was not justified by any reason. There is no appropriateness for doing any of these acts. “A king who lies”, why would someone who has all the threads in his hand lie?

The Prophet says “The best of your rulers are the ones whom you love & they love you. They pray for you & you pray for them. The worst of your rulers are the ones whom you insult & who insult you”. “An adulterous old man”, the sheikh usually has already lost his lust & desire. If he was a young man, he might be excused by some for not being able to push back the pressure of temptation. But this old man had no reason to do what he did, so he becomes eligible for inflicting all three penalties. “An arrogant breadwinner”: he is poor but surprisingly arrogant! There is a big difference between a breadwinner who is “arrogant’ & another who has “dignity”. Arrogance is absolutely prohibited by God, whether little or much. It simulates injustice in every respect. On the other hand dignity is a praised quality:



“Among you are those who truly deserve benefaction. They keep up appearances exhibiting to those unacquainted with them a happy expression of satisfaction because their modesty obstructs their tongues. You know them by their appearance; they do not solicit peoples’ ears for charity” 2:273.



Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said: “Those who are in need & yet abstain from asking out of dignity, these are absolved by God. For Allah will bestow patience upon those who exercise endurance”. Abu Sa’eed Al-Khidri was hit by a pandemic and poverty took hold of him at the time of the Prophet. His mother or wife told him to go to the Prophet & ask some charity. So Abu Sa'eed went on to ask the Prophet for something that will help him. When he reached the Prophet, Muhammad was speaking the above hadeeth. Abu Sa’eed retreated without asking anything. He said: Later, God has bestowed me with vast wealth & I became the one of the most rich among all the Ansar (inhabitants of Medina who received the Prophet after migrating from Mecca & backed him up). He got all that wealth because his dignity has prevented him from asking for help.



And Joseph is the first among the seven categories of people who deserve to stand in the shade of Allah at the Day of Judgment (when no shades are there but His shade). In the words of the Prophet he is “a man invited by a woman with wealth & beauty that cannot be resisted, & he refused to fall saying: I fear Allah”. This affliction of God Almighty was the greatest calamity of his life. It was much graver than the first one (when he was thrown into the pit). In his second test he had the choice of deciding for himself, but when he was thrown in the pit & then picked out & sold he had no will of his own. When Joseph endured all these tests, he became entitled to the honor of this world & the glory of the hereafter. People will continue recalling the purity & faithfulness of Joseph when the lady of the house (wife of the high official) where he lived, tried to induce him to surrender his chastity; she closed the doors and said to him: «Come to me». But he said: “Allah forbid, he is my benefactor; he has been kind to me & gave me a good home and a hospitable reception in his house” 12:23.



I ask Allah to make what I said to you a supply to your eventual destiny, & of benefit on the Day you are witnessed by God. He is enough for us, our supporter & sponsor. Blessing of Allah be upon our Prophet Muhammad & Praise be to God the Lord of the entire universe.


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