SHARRaB_EL_KIF
31-05-2008, 08:49
Cohabitation
Life before the marriage
Moreover in addition to couples live in cohabitation, whereas the number of single people explodes. However, they do it with their risks and dangers in the measurement where a simple denunciation can make unload the police force on their premises. But they is for certain a true choice of life.
MAJDOULINE E. and Sanaa S., working both in the communication, lived together during two years before marrying. He is of Rabat, it of Marrakech. They met within the framework of their work and it was the thunderbolt. They always wanted to marry, but it was necessary to have the means to do it. Whereas they had just started to work. “Our marriage was to cost us more than 50.000 dirhams and we had to borrow to ensure the expenses of them ", explains Majdouline. But did that justify to have lived in cohabitation in a company which considers until now that to live together before the marriage is an offence, even a crime? According to them, it was especially to avoid having loads raised to support each one on its side.
In effect, before meeting its soul mate, Majdouline the district Beau Stay lived, only in an apartment of two parts and supported a rent of 2500 dirhams per month. Whereas Sanaa resided with two girlfriends in an apartment at 4500 dirhams per month. They thus chose to share and reduce their expenses of hiring by taking an apartment to Mers Sultan to 2500 dirhams. It was difficult for them to live with the Beauséjour district with cause of the vicinity which would have been shown not very understanding. But today, they do not require to hide which that is. Since last summer, they always married and live in their apartment of Seas Sultan. Couples like that of Majdouline and Sanae, Casablancais are born every of them.
Hamid and Hafida, are all two originating in Agadir, but they work in Casablanca and live in the white city. They are together since 1999. At 35 years spent for Hamid, it is obviously the hour of the marriage. However, the family of Hafida is very preserving. It would like that Hafida marries Berber, whereas Hamid is Arab. It is especially the mother of Hafida which poses problem. His/her brothers and sisters agree for the union. But in the absence of the father, deceased since three years, only the mother decides. Then, for two years, they have lived together and their neighbors of building believe that they are married, as they say it to them. Moreover, they carry both of alliances to make more credible their lie.
Prison and humiliation
Selma and Ahmed, two frameworks in the financial circle, lived also together. But they gave up it after having come very close to the prison and humiliation for their respective families. Indeed, they occupied an apartment on the Ghandi Boulevard which they had rented together. They made the market together and separated only seldom to have a coffee with their respective friends. But it often sometimes happened to them to receive these friends, girls and boys, on their premises. It is what drew the attention of the vicinity, because the building was not accustomed to the many comings and goings. Being of young couples and noise at often late hours, the caretaker quickly made alert the syndic of the building. This last did not hesitate to call the police force one evening that they received as with accustomed the young men and girls of their knowledge.
On the basis of this denunciation, the couple and their friends had to pass to the police station for a interrogation. But as they had all more than 18 years, they were released and their file was transmitted to the prosecutor of the King. From there, very happened very quickly. Indeed, they were summoned to present itself under 12 midnight in front of the court of first authority and the judgement was marked. They bailed out all of judgments going of about fifteen days in 2 months of prison with deferment and of a fine of 500 dirhams.
The prosecutor wanted to continue besides the girls for an offence of prostitution. It is the testimony of a friend doctor and the professional chart held up by the three young women who saved them of a stay with Okacha. But the threat of the president of the court was hardly buckled: the next time the judgment will be heavier and no testimony could avoid to them going in prison. It is besides not without spite that Selma points out this painful episode of his life. “The Moroccan law is currently in dephasing with the reality of our company. We are numerous to have made this choice of life, but we let us not have of it the right and we are obliged to hide us ".
A true sexual life
When one questions the men of law, the majority consider that the cohabitation is not the problem towards which one should direct the resources of the police force. “We have the robbers, the receivers, the traffickers in all kinds and the murderers that it is necessary for us to track. Why should one attack two people who chose to live together? “, questions this police inspector. But, it ravise very quickly. For him, the law remains the law all the same. Therefore, the police force cannot close the eyes in the case where a neighbor would complain about a situation similar to that about Selma, Wassila and the others. Itself acknowledges not to know the procedure very well. “When a Morrocan lives with a foreigner, whatever its sex, it must make of it the statement near the authorities of police force. However if they are two Morrocans, they are not held to do it. The only thing which the law prohibits to them is to have relations apart from the marriage ", explains it. It is besides why the denunciations do not lead to nothing because to live in cohabitation would not be an offence expressly condemned by the law.
One could only give reason to Selma who estimates that the cohabitation is becoming a true choice for a number of young Morrocans. In any case, it is not Wassila which will say the opposite. It is a doctor in the private one and is old less than 40 years. It obviously gave up speaking about marriage with her friend, also doctor, with whom it lives since seven years. They live the district Racine, one of smartest of Casablanca. The difficulty does not seem to arise for them. In effect, in their building practically all their neighbors are foreigners whom them matrimonial situation does not disturb. “Nobody is interested in us like boyfriends. People currently have other concern to know if we are married or not. We respect our neighbors and they return it to us ", explains the spouse of Wassila which does not want however to reveal its identity.
Today, more and more of young people are confronted with such problems. In effect, none accepts the arranged marriages, but they face the resistance of their respective families or with the difficulties in finding the money for the festivals of marriage to which all the families hold. It is what explains the explosion of the rate of celibacy in the large cities like Casablanca. The study which has just published Office of the High Commission in the Plan is rather eloquent on this subject. Indeed, there is in 2005, three times more unmarried women until the age of the menopause than in 1995. The limiting average age of the marriage is 27 years for the girls and 31 years for the boys.
The celibacy is however only one question of interpretation. Because in France for example, these young people who live together would have the choice of “pacser”, i.e. not to marry but of living together. In Morocco, each one saw its celibacy as it can it. Indeed, the majority of the single people are still in the family cocoon, which does not authorize the cohabitation that the company regards as a variation. That nevertheless they have a true sexual life. “Virginity, does not have any more one great significance, insofar as any surgeon can give the hymen to his place ", explains Hamid who affirms readily that it has sexual relations with his girlfriend. Moreover the latter was not virgin before to have met him. And it affirms that it does not have scruples to marry it.
It is not the case of his/her friend, Abdelmoughit, happy to have fallen on a virgin girl before the marriage. However, it recognizes readily that to spend good moments with his/her girlfriend, virginity constitutes indeed a brake. It is not rare only it picks up other girls, just for sexual reasons. It even affirms that his/her girlfriend is well-informed and than she accepts it. It would accept that it does as much of it if it were him which wanted to remain virgin. “Me I am a boy, says he. A girl must preserve her honor. I would not agree to leave with a whore ", says it red anger.
Testimonys
What the Imam thinks
In Maarif, district of the centre town of Casablanca where mentalities are not the same ones as those of the periphery, nobody seems to worry about the couples which would be likely to live in cohabitation except perhaps the Imams. Haj Salah is the Imam of a mosque to the Maarif district. It is disconcerted to learn that people can dare to defy the divine law at the point of living together without being married. The cohabitation is for him only the consequence of the influence of Europe which makes very to corrupt manners of our youth. To have relations out-marriage, it is of Zina, and lapidation is the single punishment envisaged by the charia, the Islamic law. Those which dare to face divine prohibitions deserve simply death, according to Haj Salah. But our Imam does not deliver its opinion on those which kill each day of the human lives in Iraq. It estimates that it is Jihad, even if they kill out of other Moslems like them.
Life before the marriage
Moreover in addition to couples live in cohabitation, whereas the number of single people explodes. However, they do it with their risks and dangers in the measurement where a simple denunciation can make unload the police force on their premises. But they is for certain a true choice of life.
MAJDOULINE E. and Sanaa S., working both in the communication, lived together during two years before marrying. He is of Rabat, it of Marrakech. They met within the framework of their work and it was the thunderbolt. They always wanted to marry, but it was necessary to have the means to do it. Whereas they had just started to work. “Our marriage was to cost us more than 50.000 dirhams and we had to borrow to ensure the expenses of them ", explains Majdouline. But did that justify to have lived in cohabitation in a company which considers until now that to live together before the marriage is an offence, even a crime? According to them, it was especially to avoid having loads raised to support each one on its side.
In effect, before meeting its soul mate, Majdouline the district Beau Stay lived, only in an apartment of two parts and supported a rent of 2500 dirhams per month. Whereas Sanaa resided with two girlfriends in an apartment at 4500 dirhams per month. They thus chose to share and reduce their expenses of hiring by taking an apartment to Mers Sultan to 2500 dirhams. It was difficult for them to live with the Beauséjour district with cause of the vicinity which would have been shown not very understanding. But today, they do not require to hide which that is. Since last summer, they always married and live in their apartment of Seas Sultan. Couples like that of Majdouline and Sanae, Casablancais are born every of them.
Hamid and Hafida, are all two originating in Agadir, but they work in Casablanca and live in the white city. They are together since 1999. At 35 years spent for Hamid, it is obviously the hour of the marriage. However, the family of Hafida is very preserving. It would like that Hafida marries Berber, whereas Hamid is Arab. It is especially the mother of Hafida which poses problem. His/her brothers and sisters agree for the union. But in the absence of the father, deceased since three years, only the mother decides. Then, for two years, they have lived together and their neighbors of building believe that they are married, as they say it to them. Moreover, they carry both of alliances to make more credible their lie.
Prison and humiliation
Selma and Ahmed, two frameworks in the financial circle, lived also together. But they gave up it after having come very close to the prison and humiliation for their respective families. Indeed, they occupied an apartment on the Ghandi Boulevard which they had rented together. They made the market together and separated only seldom to have a coffee with their respective friends. But it often sometimes happened to them to receive these friends, girls and boys, on their premises. It is what drew the attention of the vicinity, because the building was not accustomed to the many comings and goings. Being of young couples and noise at often late hours, the caretaker quickly made alert the syndic of the building. This last did not hesitate to call the police force one evening that they received as with accustomed the young men and girls of their knowledge.
On the basis of this denunciation, the couple and their friends had to pass to the police station for a interrogation. But as they had all more than 18 years, they were released and their file was transmitted to the prosecutor of the King. From there, very happened very quickly. Indeed, they were summoned to present itself under 12 midnight in front of the court of first authority and the judgement was marked. They bailed out all of judgments going of about fifteen days in 2 months of prison with deferment and of a fine of 500 dirhams.
The prosecutor wanted to continue besides the girls for an offence of prostitution. It is the testimony of a friend doctor and the professional chart held up by the three young women who saved them of a stay with Okacha. But the threat of the president of the court was hardly buckled: the next time the judgment will be heavier and no testimony could avoid to them going in prison. It is besides not without spite that Selma points out this painful episode of his life. “The Moroccan law is currently in dephasing with the reality of our company. We are numerous to have made this choice of life, but we let us not have of it the right and we are obliged to hide us ".
A true sexual life
When one questions the men of law, the majority consider that the cohabitation is not the problem towards which one should direct the resources of the police force. “We have the robbers, the receivers, the traffickers in all kinds and the murderers that it is necessary for us to track. Why should one attack two people who chose to live together? “, questions this police inspector. But, it ravise very quickly. For him, the law remains the law all the same. Therefore, the police force cannot close the eyes in the case where a neighbor would complain about a situation similar to that about Selma, Wassila and the others. Itself acknowledges not to know the procedure very well. “When a Morrocan lives with a foreigner, whatever its sex, it must make of it the statement near the authorities of police force. However if they are two Morrocans, they are not held to do it. The only thing which the law prohibits to them is to have relations apart from the marriage ", explains it. It is besides why the denunciations do not lead to nothing because to live in cohabitation would not be an offence expressly condemned by the law.
One could only give reason to Selma who estimates that the cohabitation is becoming a true choice for a number of young Morrocans. In any case, it is not Wassila which will say the opposite. It is a doctor in the private one and is old less than 40 years. It obviously gave up speaking about marriage with her friend, also doctor, with whom it lives since seven years. They live the district Racine, one of smartest of Casablanca. The difficulty does not seem to arise for them. In effect, in their building practically all their neighbors are foreigners whom them matrimonial situation does not disturb. “Nobody is interested in us like boyfriends. People currently have other concern to know if we are married or not. We respect our neighbors and they return it to us ", explains the spouse of Wassila which does not want however to reveal its identity.
Today, more and more of young people are confronted with such problems. In effect, none accepts the arranged marriages, but they face the resistance of their respective families or with the difficulties in finding the money for the festivals of marriage to which all the families hold. It is what explains the explosion of the rate of celibacy in the large cities like Casablanca. The study which has just published Office of the High Commission in the Plan is rather eloquent on this subject. Indeed, there is in 2005, three times more unmarried women until the age of the menopause than in 1995. The limiting average age of the marriage is 27 years for the girls and 31 years for the boys.
The celibacy is however only one question of interpretation. Because in France for example, these young people who live together would have the choice of “pacser”, i.e. not to marry but of living together. In Morocco, each one saw its celibacy as it can it. Indeed, the majority of the single people are still in the family cocoon, which does not authorize the cohabitation that the company regards as a variation. That nevertheless they have a true sexual life. “Virginity, does not have any more one great significance, insofar as any surgeon can give the hymen to his place ", explains Hamid who affirms readily that it has sexual relations with his girlfriend. Moreover the latter was not virgin before to have met him. And it affirms that it does not have scruples to marry it.
It is not the case of his/her friend, Abdelmoughit, happy to have fallen on a virgin girl before the marriage. However, it recognizes readily that to spend good moments with his/her girlfriend, virginity constitutes indeed a brake. It is not rare only it picks up other girls, just for sexual reasons. It even affirms that his/her girlfriend is well-informed and than she accepts it. It would accept that it does as much of it if it were him which wanted to remain virgin. “Me I am a boy, says he. A girl must preserve her honor. I would not agree to leave with a whore ", says it red anger.
Testimonys
What the Imam thinks
In Maarif, district of the centre town of Casablanca where mentalities are not the same ones as those of the periphery, nobody seems to worry about the couples which would be likely to live in cohabitation except perhaps the Imams. Haj Salah is the Imam of a mosque to the Maarif district. It is disconcerted to learn that people can dare to defy the divine law at the point of living together without being married. The cohabitation is for him only the consequence of the influence of Europe which makes very to corrupt manners of our youth. To have relations out-marriage, it is of Zina, and lapidation is the single punishment envisaged by the charia, the Islamic law. Those which dare to face divine prohibitions deserve simply death, according to Haj Salah. But our Imam does not deliver its opinion on those which kill each day of the human lives in Iraq. It estimates that it is Jihad, even if they kill out of other Moslems like them.