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    Q 65: Is free intermixing (of men and women) in weddings permissible? What is the ruling on men's dancing with a Mahram (spouse or permanently unmarriageable relative) and non-Mahram (not a spouse or an unmarriageable relative) women? Moreover, if men are alone, will there be any problem?

    A: It is permissible in marriage to declare and announce it by using Duff (a tambourine-like instrument without bells) from the part of women. But free intermixing is not permissible if they are non-Mahrams. This is a Munkar (that which is unacceptable or disapproved of by Islamic law and Muslims of sound intellect) that should be removed. If some male Mahrams stay with their aunts or sisters, it is permissible but he should not dance with them as that may lead to mischief. This is also a kind of unmanliness that should not be done by a man. Moreover, doing so may lead also to great evils. Doing so is permissible only for women. It should not also be done in the presence of men as this may lead to bad thinking and arouse suspicion about this man or women who play with their brothers, aunts or uncles. Man is in danger as the devil usually calls him for obscenity. It is not liable for a man to dance with his sisters or aunts, he should keep away from that. As for dancing with non-Mahrams, it is undoubtedly a great sin and Munkar. May Allah safeguard us against all these things! Rather, it is permissible for men, if they are alone, to celebrate marriage with swords, javelin throwing and narrating poetry. Moreover, beating drums or the like and unlawful songs are not permissible.

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    Q 50: What is your Eminence's view on the wastefulness observed in food served in parties, which end up in waste bags? Is there a solution to this?
    What should be done with the leftovers?


    A: I have previously replied to this matter that it is not permissible to exaggerate in holding wedding banquets or others.
    The host should only concentrate on the essentials and leave whatever is unnecessary. The leftovers should also be handed over to charity committees, poor people, workers or any deserving beneficiary.
    They should be given to those who can benefit from them rather than throwing them in waste disposals or near any source of impurity.
    (Part No. 21; Page No. 97)
    If no deserving beneficiary is available, they should be transferred to a safe place away from streets or impurities, to protect them, perhaps there might come someone who can eat them among people or animals.
    However, if there exists any person who needs them; they should be delivered to them immediately. They can even be processed to be used as a fodder. If a person observes rationalism and avoids overbearingness, the amount of leftovers will consequently decrease.
    (Part No. 21; Page No. 98)

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    Q 49: Are the parties held in hotels that cost a lot of money considered a form of extravagance? If so, please advise us about this.
    (Part No. 21; Page No. 95)


    A: Parties that are held in hotels include many mistakes. First, they usually involve unnecessary extravagance.
    Second, they lead to overbearingness in setting banquets, in addition to the attendance of unnecessary people.
    Third, this leads to outrageous free intermixing (of men and women), whether the hotel employees or others. The same applies to wedding parties held in highly-expensive halls. A person should not spend much money in that out of showing consideration to people. You should be economical and avoid wastefulness, so that middle income people can get married. If a person for example sees their relatives holding wedding banquets in such luxurious hotels; they will either imitate them and burden themselves with debts or refrain from marriage out of fear of incurring such costs.
    Accordingly, my advice to all fellow Muslims is not to hold their wedding parties in such expensive hotels or halls. They should hold them in moderate priced halls or at home, there is no wrong in this. Rather, doing this if possible is much preferable, as it is far from extravagance. Allah is the One to be sought for help.
    (Part No. 21; Page No. 96)

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    Q 1: What is the ruling on songs? Are they Haram (prohibited) or not? Note that I only listen to them for amusement.
    And what is the ruling on playing the instrument of Rababa (Arab fiddle) and listening to old songs?
    Is playing the drums at weddings Haram, although I heard that there is nothing wrong with that?
    May Allah reward you and lead you to the right path.


    A: Listening to songs is Haram and Munkar (that which is unacceptable or disapproved of by Islamic law and Muslims of sound intellect). It causes disease and hardness of the heart and ultimately diverts people from Dhikr (Remembrance of Allah) and performing Salah (Prayer). Many scholars explain Allah's saying: And of mankind is he who purchases idle talks (i.e. music, singing, etc.) to mean singing. `Abdullah ibn Mas`ud (may Allah be pleased with him) used to swear that the idle talk here refers to singing. It is even more detestable if singing is accompanied by a musical instrument, such as Rababa, lute, violin, or drums. Some scholars state that singing accompanied by musical instruments is unanimously forbidden.
    Hence, it is obligatory to beware of that. It is authentically reported that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: Verily, among my Ummah (nation) there will be people who will deem as lawful: Al-Hir, (wearing) silk [for men], Khamr (intoxicants), and musical instruments. Al-Hir refers to sexual intercourse outside marriage.
    (Part No. 3; Page No. 424)
    I advise you and everyone else to listen to the Holy Qur'an radio station and Nur `Ala Al-Darb (Light on the Way) program. They present great benefit instead of listening to songs and musical instruments.
    As for wedding parties, it is permissible to beat the tambourine during them accompanied by respectful singing free from calling to unlawful acts or praising impermissible matters, but by women only in order to announce marriage and distinguish it from illegitimate relations, as reported from the Prophet (peace be upon him).
    As for drums, it is not permissible to use them in weddings. Only a tambourine is permissible. Furthermore, loud speakers are not permitted in weddings and so are the prohibited songs usually played, because they result in great Fitnah (temptation) and bad consequences as well as harming Muslims. It should be noted that a short time is enough for declaring marriage. Indeed, wasting a lot of time in weddings leads to missing Fajr (Dawn) Prayer, which is one of the worst abominations and traits of hypocrites.

    http://alifta.net/Fatawa/FatawaSubje...rumsatweddings

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    Q: What is the Duff (a tambourine-like instrument without bells)? Is it permissible for women to use Duff and sing on any occasion other than weddings? What is the drum and is it permissible to use it in weddings or other occasions?

    A: Scholars mentioned that Duff is a tambourine that has two faces; one face covered and the second face is open. It is used by women in weddings. This is permissible in weddings as it is a way of announcing wedding. Women may sing usual songs with the Duff by which they praise the bride, bridegroom and their families or the like. But using drum and evil songs that praise wine or adultery is a Munkar (that which is unacceptable or disapproved of by Islamic law and Muslims of sound intellect) even if it was done by women. It is only permissible for women to sing usual songs that praise the bride's and the bridegroom's family as this is what was done during the lifetime of the Prophet (peace be upon him). Free intermixing (of men and women) is not permissible at all. Beating Duff and singing should only be done among women. It is also permissible for young girls to use the Duff in `Eids (Festivals) as the Prophet (peace be upon him) let them do that in the house of `Aishah, but it is not permissible to use the drum as it leads to more evil and temptation.


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    Q 92 : What is your opinion about overcharged dowries that render a young man unable to marry or afford the expenses of marriage?

    A: There is no doubt that extravagance in dowries is one of the major causes of marriage delay and failure of many youth to have a wife, which considerably affects the issue of matrimony. Truly, the delay of marriage for youth causes many problems. So, it is obligatory to give much care to this issue. Hence, a person should carefully avoid boasting or being ostentatious in demanding dowries, giving banquets, etc., because boasting and ostentation in such matters harm everyone and cause many problems. My advice to all Muslims is to make such things easy and to reduce its expenses as much as possible, and also to reduce the expenses of Walimahs (wedding banquets) and not to lavishly spend on it. For, though people now enjoy welfare, still it is difficult for people to prepare such banquets. Therefore, dear brother do not hold a large Walimah, but rather limit it to moderate things which suffice in observing
    (Part No. 21; Page No. 218)
    the Sunnah, without exerting yourself or bothering others, who are in no need to attend the ceremony. Thus, if a person slaughters one, two or three animals for the wedding banquet, it will be sufficient and rewarding. Likewise, this applies in womanly issues and things related to marriage declaration, invitation of many women, announcing marriage through loudspeakers and staying up all night long. For these things lead to manifest evil and serious corruption. So, frugality involves great benefit, and it involves facilitating marriage, getting many youth married, increasing birthrates and enhancing benefits. Perhaps the state might be guided to something that entails great benefit for the Ummah through increasing marriages and eliminating adultery by instructing people to assume frugality as regards dowries and to avoid excessiveness. We ask Allah to guide the government, Muslim rulers, scholars as well as all common Muslims to things which benefit them and their society and which avail the poor and weak among them. We also ask Allah to guide all the people to things which involve their good and their salvation and to help in this life and in the Afterlife.

    http://alifta.net/Fatawa/FatawaSubje...nquet,itwillbe

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    Q 92 : What is your opinion about overcharged dowries that render a young man unable to marry or afford the expenses of marriage?

    A: There is no doubt that extravagance in dowries is one of the major causes of marriage delay and failure of many youth to have a wife, which considerably affects the issue of matrimony. Truly, the delay of marriage for youth causes many problems. So, it is obligatory to give much care to this issue. Hence, a person should carefully avoid boasting or being ostentatious in demanding dowries, giving banquets, etc., because boasting and ostentation in such matters harm everyone and cause many problems. My advice to all Muslims is to make such things easy and to reduce its expenses as much as possible, and also to reduce the expenses of Walimahs (wedding banquets) and not to lavishly spend on it. For, though people now enjoy welfare, still it is difficult for people to prepare such banquets. Therefore, dear brother do not hold a large Walimah, but rather limit it to moderate things which suffice in observing
    (Part No. 21; Page No. 218)
    the Sunnah, without exerting yourself or bothering others, who are in no need to attend the ceremony. Thus, if a person slaughters one, two or three animals for the wedding banquet, it will be sufficient and rewarding. Likewise, this applies in womanly issues and things related to marriage declaration, invitation of many women, announcing marriage through loudspeakers and staying up all night long. For these things lead to manifest evil and serious corruption. So, frugality involves great benefit, and it involves facilitating marriage, getting many youth married, increasing birthrates and enhancing benefits. Perhaps the state might be guided to something that entails great benefit for the Ummah through increasing marriages and eliminating adultery by instructing people to assume frugality as regards dowries and to avoid excessiveness. We ask Allah to guide the government, Muslim rulers, scholars as well as all common Muslims to things which benefit them and their society and which avail the poor and weak among them. We also ask Allah to guide all the people to things which involve their good and their salvation and to help in this life and in the Afterlife.

    http://alifta.net/Fatawa/FatawaSubje...nquet,itwillbe

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    Q: What is permissible for a husband to have from his wife after the marriage contract and before consummating the marriage with her?


    A: It is permissible to have what all husband may have from their wives, but it is better to wait until the marriage is consummated. If one needs to visit her and communicate with her, with the permission of her family, for a certain matter, it is permissible. And if they sit in seclusion, with her family's permission, that would be permissible. However, if they both do that secretly, that would incur danger, as she might be pregnant and then people might think ill of her or he might deny that he had sexual intercourse with her, and that would constitute a Fitnah (sedition) and a manifest evil.
    (Part No. 21; Page No. 209)
    So, one should be patient and abstain from having sexual intercourse with his wife until it is possible to consummate marriage with her. If it be necessary for him to communicate with her, let that be in the presence of her father, mother or brother so as to avoid anything that might lead to a bad ending. May Allah grant us all success.

    http://alifta.net/Fatawa/FatawaSubje...bleforahusband

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    Q 22: Is the approval of the Waliy (a legally accountable person acting for a woman regarding marriage) conditional when a previously married woman marries once again? What are the conditions of the valid marriage in this case?
    (Part No. 21; Page No. 39)


    A: Of the conditions of the validity of marriage is its being contracted by a Waliy, whether the woman has or has not been previously married. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: There is no marriage without the permission of a Waliy. The Prophet (peace be upon him) also said: No woman may conduct the marriage contract of another woman, and no woman can conduct the marriage contract on behalf of her own self. As for the woman who has previously married, she should not be given in marriage except after taking her vocal permission, but as for the virgin, her silence indicates her consent. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: A matron should not be given in marriage except after consulting her; and a virgin should not be given in marriage except after her permission. The people asked, “O Allah’s Messenger! How can we know her permission?” He said: “Her silence (indicates her permission).” (Agreed upon by Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
    It was reported in Sahih Muslim that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: A woman who has been previously married has more right to her person than her Waliy; and a virgin's father must ask for her consent, her consent being her silence. The meaning of the Prophet's (peace be upon him) saying: A woman who has been previously married has more right to her person than her Waliy, is that her Waliy is not permitted to give her in marriage to anyone except after taking her express consent.
    (Part No. 21; Page No. 40)
    This is to reconcile between the Hadith mentioned in this subject. This is the opinion of the Jumhur (dominant majority of scholars) which is in accordance with the authentic Hadiths. Allah is the Grantor of success.

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    Salam Alaikoem.

    Jammer dat alles Engels is.

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    Ik zal ook in het nl plaatsen in shaa Allah

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