Q 65: Is free intermixing (of men and women) in weddings permissible? What is the ruling on men's dancing with a Mahram (spouse or permanently unmarriageable relative) and non-Mahram (not a spouse or an unmarriageable relative) women? Moreover, if men are alone, will there be any problem?
A: It is permissible in marriage to declare and announce it by using Duff (a tambourine-like instrument without bells) from the part of women. But free intermixing is not permissible if they are non-Mahrams. This is a Munkar (that which is unacceptable or disapproved of by Islamic law and Muslims of sound intellect) that should be removed. If some male Mahrams stay with their aunts or sisters, it is permissible but he should not dance with them as that may lead to mischief. This is also a kind of unmanliness that should not be done by a man. Moreover, doing so may lead also to great evils. Doing so is permissible only for women. It should not also be done in the presence of men as this may lead to bad thinking and arouse suspicion about this man or women who play with their brothers, aunts or uncles. Man is in danger as the devil usually calls him for obscenity. It is not liable for a man to dance with his sisters or aunts, he should keep away from that. As for dancing with non-Mahrams, it is undoubtedly a great sin and Munkar. May Allah safeguard us against all these things! Rather, it is permissible for men, if they are alone, to celebrate marriage with swords, javelin throwing and narrating poetry. Moreover, beating drums or the like and unlawful songs are not permissible.
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